Discover prompt for the day – “teach”. (Yes, I’m a little late)
I’m not sure how things work in your country but in India, kids usually don’t move out of their parents’ homes and stay with them all their lives. There’s no concept of leaving your parents’ house after you turn 18years old. Similarly, Indian society is new to the idea of old age homes. Indians typically move out for college or work but wind up coming back home eventually. I moved out of my parents’ home 3 years back to a different city for a job. While I did live on campus during my MBA but since it was in the same city I used to go home a lot. My parents are the kinds who smothered their children – my sister and I didn’t have to do much around the house while growing up since they took care of everything. I don’t mean we didn’t do chores around the house but I mean things like going to the bank or to pay utility bills. Setting up your own home teaches you so many things, some being –
- How to run a household – I mean something as basic as figuring out how much grocery to order to last a few weeks is a skill! Some week we’d be totally short on tomatoes, so we’d order extra the next week but they’d end up going bad because no one would use them that week. Figuring out how to pay utility bills on time – during our first 6 months we forgot to pay the electricity bill for a month. The next month we were super shocked to see the bill amount!
- Managing money – the first 3-4 months every single one of our supermarket trips would end up with us spending a lot of money and buying a lot of things we didn’t even want. We’d be one of those meme people who’d be broke by the end of the month. Slowly, I learnt how to budget for different expenditures across the month and start saving money.
- Managing time – Waking up, cooking, working out, getting ready, reaching office on time while somehow still finding time to quickly brush up on the news while having your morning coffee – this routine took months to perfect.
- Being responsible – living on your own forces you to be responsible otherwise one day you find yourself drunk & locked out of your home at 3AM because you forgot your keys!
- How amazing your parents are – I did know this before but living apart really made me respect them for all that they’d done for me while growing up. It made me rethink all those days when they’d given up on plans of their own for our needs. Not proud of this, I guilted my mom out of a Switzerland trip when I was giving college entrance exams. Parents really are amazing for the way they get everything done and make adulting look so easy.
- Adulting sucks – no matter how glamourous movies and TV shows make it look, adulting is horrible. 80% of the days I wish I was a teenager again! It’s great that you can choose what you want to eat and when you want to eat but choosing it everyday is such a task. It was so much easier when mom just made us dinner without asking us what we wanted to eat.
- How to be okay on your own – you do have friends and flatmates around when you move out. But there are days when no one is around, so you’re on your own and you learn to be okay hanging out with yourself.
These are some out of a very comprehensive list of things I’ve learnt after moving out. Life is a great teacher! How has your experience been after moving out of your parents’ house?