While I haven’t made any resolutions for 2021, I do feel like there are some aspects about myself that I need to work on. These are qualities or traits about myself that bother me a lot. The crazy part is that even though I see myself repeat these – I don’t do much to change them. So I am putting this out here, in writing, to make sure I work on them.
- Stop procrastinating – The amount of time I waste procrastinating – putting off basic tasks – amazes me. I wasn’t like this but something just went wrong in 2020 and I have started procrastinating A LOT. I really want to work on this aspect this year.
- Ask people for help – I am a control freak. I also don’t trust that people will be able to do things exactly how I want it done – hence, I end up doing all my work myself. As I have newly started my own venture, it has gotten so much harder to manage all my work on my own and yet I find it extremely hard to trust anyone to do my work. Even something as simple as making copies – gives me anxiety to trust someone else to do it properly. I am also scared to ask for help – because it makes me feel weak. I need to start being able to ask for help.
- Have realistic expectations – Every time I get into something new – I start dreaming about what is going to happen 3-4 years down the line. Eg: When I start a new job, I dream that in 3-4 years I’d have gotten 2 promotions and be practically running the place. Unrealistic expectations that lead to so much disappointment. I want to have realistic expectations from work, people, this blog, vacations, etc.
- Keep in touch better with my friends – Over the past few years, I have become someone that has started enjoying their own company A LOT. Not that that is a bad thing but I have slipped a lot on keeping in touch with my friends. I used to be someone who used to be in touch with even their kindergarten friends but I have slowly become lazy as well as just forgetful and it bothers me since I have lost touch with so many old friends. The newer ones understand me enough to keep in touch themselves but that makes me feel extremely guilty too.
- Be more patient – I used to be the most patient person ever but then my anxiety kicked in and I started seeing myself becoming more impatient with people. I dislike this quality (impatience) most in others as well. Patience is a quality that is realistic (unlike like being kind always) and can make the world such a better place (if people were more patient with each other). I want to work on this quality THE most this year.
Wish me luck on making these changes to myself! 🙂 Are you working on changing anything about yourself? How do you got about it?
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Just have determination and you will master all of these! I can relate to some of these points too.
This is also an amazing idea for a post, so thanks for the inspiration Di 😍
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Hehe thanks for the motivation! I really badly need it! 🙂
Can’t wait you read your post!
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I use notion and it has been very helpful! I generally have a regular to-do list to fulfill and a weekly goal which helps me a lot to change certain things and acquire new habits. You can use it too!!
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Notion? Is that an app?
That’s good to know. Thanks for the advice – will definitely download the app! 🙂
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Yup, it is an app. You can download any kind of app regarding that. I personally use Notion to maintain stuff.
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Thanks for the suggestion
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Your post got me thinking about the things I would like to work on myself and some of which I see on your list too – asking for help and keeping in touch with old friends.
And wish you all the luck, Moksha!
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Thank you so much, Nathi! How are you doing?
Asking for help is kinda scary for me – I’ve built myself up to be this independent person so asking for help makes me feel weak. But I’m trying to work on it instead of drown myself with impossible work.
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I’m okay I guess. Life is taking an unexpected turn and I’m just waiting for the storm to pass.
I totally get you! I really do, it’s never easy to ask for help when you’ve spent years to create an independent self. But I’m glad you’re working on it.
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We should trust ourselves to open us for people around us.
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Trust is such a difficult thing to do!
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I am also going through similar conditions and all 5 points applies on me too.
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I wish change was easy – but it will be worthwhile once we are though with the process. Caterpillar to butterfly 🙂
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Yes.
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Working for your own adventure is difficult but definitely more rewarding but is also difficult to trust people that’ll do the job in the right way! But slowly, once you start trusting them, you’ll also be able to ask them for help more often 😉
Good luck! A change is always a change and is difficult but so well worth it 😉
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True! Thank you so much for the encouragement! Much needed! 🙂
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Completely relatable! I also want the same 🙂
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Change is hard – but as long as the intention is there. 🙂
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True!❤️
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I so relate to this! I have a few negative traits I’m very well aware of and can see me doing it but for some reason I can’t stop myself (as much as I want to)! It’s a terrible habit and I need to quit it! My list: impatience, quick to anger, stubborn, sometimes a bit judgmental (my friends would probably say “a lot” lol).. Great post!
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Hahah but being judgemental isn’t all bad, is it? Damn, do I need to add that to this list. 😛
I totally get what you’re saying – like I see myself be impatient with my family or co-workers and it bothers me so much but in that moment I just can’t seem to not react the way I did. But I’m trying to be more conscious of thinking (a lot) before speaking.
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I relate to the 1st and 2nd points, the most!!!
Let’s change this (but maybe from tomorrow 😛😛)jk
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Hahahaha. OMG. I posted this and then downloaded a to-do app and then almost convinced myself that I’ll start using it from tomorrow. 😂😂
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Hehe😂😂 I downloaded an app, in which a bunny starts getting sad if you didn’t complete a task and happy if you do it and I just kept waiting as I want to see , how much sad it can get 😉😉😂😂
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We wish you luck! All good things to work on. As for procrastinating more last year, it was an incredibly hard year so do not be too hard on yourself. But great job for working on self-improvement.
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Thank you so much 🤗
I know but it’s so not me. I was the kind of person who’d be up at sunrise with a packed schedule for the day that I’d tick off by the end of the day. It just bothers me that I keep postponing doing things/taking decisions. But here’s hoping I go back to the old me this year. 😊
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I have trouble keeping in touch with my friends too. I think they also have trouble reaching out, though. I feel like we all have too much on our minds to think of sending out the occasional text.
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True but it should be easier now with so much of social media. I remember keeping in touch with so many friends in the era of text messaging. I hope I can atleast forward a couple of memes a week and stay in touch with more friends. 🙈
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Beautiful goals to improve yourself ✨
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Brave to share this! And I know someone already commented on this, but this is so relatable. I know I’ve come into 2021 with a list of things I want to work on, as well, and it’s been more of a challenge than I’d like to admit. But I’m not giving up! Good luck to you! I’ll be rooting for you. 🙂
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Those are great things! I certainly need to be more patient, lol.
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Patience is a virtue. I think it’s THE best quality one can have. I hope I’m able to work on it. 😊
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Agreed!
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I felt the second point soooo much!
I really struggled to ask for help and I still do sometimes.
I had to ask myself why I fail to ask for help. No one loses anything by getting a helping hand.
All the best with these. I’m cheering for you 🎉❤
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Thank you so much 🤗
Right? There is nothing to lose I just feel so vulnerable asking for help. 🙈 I hope I do better this year.
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Good luck on your journey! After last year, I think we could all use some reflection and to set ourselves goals like this. Thank you for sharing!
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Thank you. Yes, last year derailed a lot of us from our regular paths – I didn’t even realise when my habits changed. Hoping to get back on track soon. 😊
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Learning to ask people for help can really lift the weight of your shoulders, even if you didn’t realise there was a burden there to begin with. This was something I never used to do and is something I’m actively trying to remember is okay to do. I feel like it’s also a vulnerable thing to ask people for help. For me I always just think I am capable of doing everything myself and having to ask for help is a sign of weakness, which is ridiculous because we can’t always do everything ourselves. Good luck with your journey ❤
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I so relate. Having lived by myself for a few years – I’ve gotten into the habit of doing everything on my own – from lifting things way too heavy for me to fixing things – it just makes me feel so good to be independent. And I hate the feeling of being vulnerable when I ask someone for help. But you’re right – it would make life and work way easier if I just asked for some help. I’m starting small – but I’m going to start asking for help. Thank you so much. 🤗🤗
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I think it’s absolutely great that you’re able to recognise these things about yourself and that you’re willing to change!
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Haha I am willing to change but I wish the change process was easier. Like about being more patient – it’s only once I’ve been impatient that I realise what I did. So it’s definitely not easy changing. 🙈
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Great list of things that everyone could do better! My procrastination tip is this: if it takes less than 5 minutes, do it right then. If it takes more than 5 minutes and there are other tasks with higher priority, put it in your schedule or calendar. That way you either do it, or ACTUALLY plan to do it. I fall into the “oh yeah I was going to do that” trap when I rediscover something I was supposed to do and try to avoid that by scheduling!
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Thanks for the tip – that actually makes a lot of sense. I’m going to try this out today.
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Every time you write I feel like I am reading a part of myself.
I can relate to all this especially asking for help. You are right, sometimes it feels “weakness” to ask for help when actually it means you are allowing yourself the break and showing strength by trusting someone to do something for you— even as simple as making copies🙈
I hope you can work on all these✨I need to work on spending time with others, enjoying someone else’s company than mine🌼
A great read xx
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Aww, I’m glad you relate with my posts.
Right? I don’t know why I feel weak asking for help. Trusting people is hard. 🙈
Thank you – I hope I’m able to better myself too. I hope you find people that make you want to spend time with them. 🤗🤗
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This is a great list! There are many things on there that I would work on too. I think my main goal this year is to he more optimistic and hopeful. Last year was so awful, that I brought those feelings with me into this year too. So, go feel better I want to hope for the best, and make the best of a bad situation. 😋
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Yess, I totally get it. Last year was so hard on all of us! To a better 2021. 😬
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Procrastination, in my opinion, is one of the hardest hurdles to overcome. But I find that when you keep your intentions and focus clear (something that’s hard to do at first) then you procrastinate a little less, which is progress in the right direction. I relate with what you’re trying to work on and i’m doing the same. Sometimes I slip back into bad habits though 😓
But!! I’m rooting for you in tackling these issues and I’m confident you’ll make the necessary changes 💪🏾
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Thanks for the advice and the motivation. Really need it. 🤗
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Of course, we’re all in this together ❤
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Hi! Ive experience many of the same struggles you are writing about in this post. Something that helped me a lot was asking for help. That was life-changing because once I was able to let go of that sense of control everything else started falling into place. It isn’t something that changes magically from one day to another but I have notice the positive effects. Keeping a planner that I actually liked helped with the procrastination because I was incentivized to use something that kept me alert. Also, I hate routines but my brain thrives on them, so that has helped me on finding enough time for my friends as well as time for myself. Just know you are not alone on this and there are always ways to improve, be patient with yourself and your process. Hope this helps=)
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Thank you so much for the advice. I need it. I’ll definitely try keeping a planner.
Yeah – I need to work on letting go of controlling every single thing. I hope I can do that this year. 🙈
Thank you for the motivation. 🤗
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I myself have wanted to become a better friend. I related a lot to “enjoying my own company”. It’s a good thing but can become isolation if you don’t find balance. Great ideas overall!
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That’s true! I also feel super guilty about not being there for my friends – so I’m trying harder to find time to keep in touch with them. Thanks for reading. 😊
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You can do it! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻 setting these as your goals is altready The first step 😊💖 now envisage your life, the way it would be, if those goals are achieved…how would you feel, what would you do, what would you say 🥰 …there more visual and precise you are in your vision the more you’re able to manifest this outcome ✨🌻🤍
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Just came across your blog, this post is the kick in the backside I needed to make some plans about self-change as well, loved the read!
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I just wish self-change were easier!! I’ve only managed the easiest step yet – discovering what I want to change. The rest still seems difficult. But good luck on your journey. 😊
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I share a few points!!
I need to change almost everything u said in this post and many people will agree too.
Thanks for sharing this✌️
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Am not a #1, #5 am a patient person, probably the only one in my family that has patient. #2 I don’t mind asking people for help or me helping someone out, but I find that most people are unreliable. #4 well, I stop keeping in touch with most my friend, just felt I was the only making effort in keeping in touch. Then it might just be me.
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I think the keeping in touch bit – once you’re older and have jobs and responsibilities – it gets harder to find time for friends. And it totally sucks! As someone whose friends put in more effort to keep in touch than I do – I say try again. Maybe they’re like me – lazy and short on time? 🙂
That’s so good that you’re patient! It is an amazing quality to have!
Right? People are fricking unreliable and also don’t always get what you need? Argh
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Good luck for your new start!
I hope you try your best for what you want to achieve!😃👍
Keep trust in the process everything will fall in place 💫
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Awww thank you so much for the motivation. ❤️🤗
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Asking for help when I know I need it has been one of the toughest adjustments I’ve ever had to make (I’m still working on it, but it’s gotten better over the last year or so. I saw it as a sign of weakness, but I had to realize – for me – the weakness was not asking for help when I’m in a bind before it spirals beyond my control.
You got this girl! Everything comes in time 💗
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Thank you so much for the motivation. ❤️
That’s true – I’ve been feeling the heat of not getting help more these past few weeks and it’s pushing to ask for help. But it’s still difficult to let go of the need to control everything. 🙈
I hope I get better. 😊🤞
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I guess when we procrastinate, we really have this question in mind “am I living the way I should be?” And this thought never leaves us, but as deadlines come closer we have to push it behind for the urgent things. Finding clarity about life is what we have to endeavor.
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Love that you set goals for yourself! This is awesome and a great idea💗👍🏼
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Thank you so much for the motivation ❤️
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This is great.
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Thank you ❤️
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I can so relate to all of these! Lately, I’ve been thinking the same points and some additional ones. So, your post came to my feed just in time!
Unfortunately I don’t have any tip that I can share, but I can only wish you best of luck and lots of strength. It definitely is a hard task to do!
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It is an extremely difficult task. But here’s hoping I’m able to slowly work on it and change for the better. Thank you so much for the motivation. ❤️
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I can relate to this and has made me think about things. Thank you 😀
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It’s not easy to accept these things and to write them down. Bravo to you😇
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Just believe in yourself!! and u can urself 😁😁😊 Also it requires is patience and hope.
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