I’ve been blogging for over a year now and I am hooked. I spend a lot of time everyday on the WP app – it has become a ritual to check my WP app like I check my fridge when I’m bored. Having spent some time here, I do have some secrets – some spicy, some fun and some factual. Here are my confessions –
1. I don’t like some bloggers. There I said it. I’m obviously not going to name them but there are some bloggers that I don’t really like for totally immature reasons (considering I barely know them). But it’s not all lovey dovey in the blogging world.
2. My stats disappoint me. This isn’t about being hard on myself. I get a lot of comments about the number of followers I have and to be totally honest it throws me off because my stats and my follower count don’t really match up.
3. I don’t follow a lot of bloggers. I can’t follow someone just for the sake of it. There has to be something about that blog that interests me – the content, the writing or the blogger. I only follow a blog after I’ve read 4-5 posts and know that I’m going to enjoy reading future content.
4. I feel jealous of other bloggers. I feel two types of jealousy – one, when a blogger writes something spectacular and I wish I could write as well as them and second, when a blogger’s average posts gets a lot of likes and comments. It’s not something that happens often but it does happen and I am so embarrassed to admit it.
5. I really adore some bloggers. It’s totally crazy since I haven’t met anyone from this blogging world but the interactions I’ve had with a few have made them a permanent part of my heart. I truly hope I get to meet these beautiful people at some point in the future.
6. I don’t share my blog posts with family and friends. Haha. I just feel like I’m a different person on here. I’m more real here and I have very few filters. I like keeping this part of my life away from the other part of my life. Funnily, a few of my friends who do know about my blog often find out things about me from the blog.
7. This blog has been such a good influence on me. From making me write more to making me get back to reading to helping me on days when I want to vent to finding motivation in other blogger’s posts to just helping me make friends.
8. There are some types of content that I don’t enjoy reading at all. I am going to get a lot of hate for this. I don’t enjoy reading posts that are overtly religious (I am agnostic). I also am not the biggest fan of blogger interviews – I get it is a great way to promote each other but reading the same questions answered by different types of bloggers just isn’t fun for me. (I love promoting fellow bloggers and I do quarterly blogger recommendation posts. Check them out here – part 1 & part 2) I also avoid shopping haul posts mainly because I’m being more conscious about the content I consume because I’m trying to be more sustainable.
I spilled the tea! Now its your turn. What are your confessions? 😀
PS: I broke my phone screen today morning – so I’m really sad. Post some fun confessions to cheer me up. :(
Read my other posts and show them some love (they are less bitchy, I promise 😀 )
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Even I don’t share my blogs with my family. There was a time when I posted very sad and depressed poems consecutively and the last thing I wanted was my family to read them! I also relate to the point where you said an average blog post getting a lot of likes. I feel like there are some others blogs who actually who deserve those likes but don’t get it. I related to almost all of these, if I wrote my blogging confessions, my post would have been much similar to you!
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Same – I used this space to vent about how I was feeling and hence didn’t feel like sharing it with my family. I think some people are really good at networking and that helps to get more likes. 🙂 🙂
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Omg this is good and juicy, thanks for sharing! Hmmm confessions, I would say, I agree with all that you wrote and yes, sometimes I judge and dislike certain bloggers. I actually stopped following a few bc even tho their blogs were beautiful, their posts always seemed to be so negative and kind of always seemed to trash talk and judge other bloggers. It felt like the Mean Girls movie to me, so I didn’t want that negative vibe. Your point about not sharing with your friends and fam is so fascinating! Can I ask what is your zodiac sign? Also, u are SOOOO one of the bloggers I adore and hope to meet someday 💖🤣🌺🌈
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Haha! I also unfollowed a few bloggers who pretend to know it all and have it all together. 😀 But the ones that I dislike the most are the ones that randomly like 20 posts of yours and flood your notifications and then disappear forever! 😀
I’m a Libra (October born). 🙂
Yessss, I hope I get to meet you some day too! ❤
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Once my dad read one of my blogs and started suggesting to me what else I could have included in my blog. I took his words but I felt really shy and awkward in that conversation, I really don’t know why. From that point in time, I’ve stopped sharing my blogs with my family. (And non of my friends bother to read, they are not very good people😏)
Well, I could relate to most of the confessions you’ve made here.
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Hahahh – my friends are THE same. When I started I used to diligently share ALL my posts with them but hardly any bothered reading it. 😀 😀
And sameee – my mum gave me some suggestions on some posts and then I was like – yaa, no need to read them anymore. 😀 😀
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Yes, it kinda gets weird too. 😐😕
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Haha, what a great post and with so much to relate to. I’ve been here about 18 months and can still recall wondering how long I would do it for and I have surprised myself that I have – almost – stuck to my original intent of a post a week. I still enjoy it but, like you, have my issues too 😉
I read endless posts about blog traffic and content but they are almost all so formulaic as to be useless. As for traffic itself, I am yet to discover any correlation between followers/views /likes/comments. Honestly, I can’t see any and so I have stopped looking.
I try to read the posts of everyone I follow – some make me smile or are enjoyable to read and sometimes I am blown away by the quality of writing here. Some folks I have unfollowed because what I thought was a one-off post turned not to be so and all manner of conspiracy theories were being espoused. Same with some over the overly-judgemental preachy type posters. I love that there is space for everyone on WP but equally I am glad I can filter what I see far better than on other social apps such as FB or Twitter. Keep blogging! 🙂
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The thing with following all the things to increase traffic is that it takes the fun away from blogging and makes it feel more like work to me.
That is a great point – it is unlike other social media in terms of filtering – I didn’t think of it that way.
Thank you 🙂 I hope to do another confession post a year from now – once the flak I receive for this one dies down 😀 😀
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Agreed, there would never be enough hours in the day if you followed everyone. I usually don’t follow until I have read a body of posts that give me an idea of the type of content they put out and how often. I noticed there was a glut of new accounts a few months back that all had the same first few posts about “what’s on my desk’! So, I assumed they were bots 😦
Yup, I do like that we can filter who and largely what we see here 😉
Stay well! 🙂
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I also don’t share my blog with my family and friends. I’m surrounded by a lot of unsupportive people and I talk about personal stuff on my blog. It’s better that they don’t know about it.
There are no bloggers that I’ve met that I don’t like, but there are some whose content I get tired of. One blogger who I know posts almost exclusively sponsored content. It makes me feel like her posts are insincere because someone is paying her to write all of the topics and she’s not writing from the heart. I’m sure some will disagree but that’s how I feel.
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Wow – I wish I’d get an opportunity to do sponsored content. 😀 But I get how it could feel like the content isn’t genuine. I feel that with a lot of youtubers – especially since a lot aren’t upfront about what is sponsored and what isn’t.
I used to share it with my family and friends because I used to think that no one else will read my content but now that people do – I don’t bother sharing it. 🙂
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Yeah, it’s like having a whole new family online 🙂
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I share my blog but no one really reads so I am safe😂
I get that about jealousy😤
Also, I hate it when people follow you and tell tou to follow them back and then they just forget about it. Like you have around a 1000 followers but only around 2/10 th of them ever like our comment and it’s the same case with me too
And yes as everyone said you’re one of the best bloggers I know💜
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hahaha – why are our friends like that? 😀 😀
The engagement rate is very low! I know my 70-80 off blogging fam will show up in the comments as soon as I post but the rest is SO varying!
Awww, thank you so much! I think you are one of my favourites too – to read and interact with. ❤
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I check WordPress a crazy amount too, I probably would save a lot of time in my day if I didn’t but it’s hard not to. I think that jealousy is a feeling that every blogger has probably felt at least once – it’s natural. Especially when you make good content but have much less followers than people who post really silly content. I’ve definitely felt that before too. I’m close to my blogger friends too – REALLY close. I feel much closer to the people on here than I do with my friends in real life for some reason. I guess it’s because bloggers tend to spill their inner most thoughts more, like you’ve just done. My confession: I have one or two blogger crushes. What? Don’t blame me 😊
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OMG! Blogger crushes! I wanna know more!!!! Is it a crush on their personalities or their writing? It’s going to sound stupid but I’ve always wanted to have a blogger crush – just to keep things fun here – but I haven’t interacted with anyone that I’d crush on. 😀 😀
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Yeah, it’s a crush on them. If their blog doesn’t have a picture of them on it then I guess I’m just in love with their writing and personality. I never saw it that way I guess. But most of them do have pictures.
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Thank you for your honesty. I confess most of the people in my life have no idea I’m a blogger. They also don’t know I write books or poetry. I can see why you wouldn’t share with family and friends.
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They don’t know you write books and poetry? Wow!
It is just easier to be me when I know no one from my world is reading the stuff I write. 😀
Going to check out your blog after finishing this comment. 🙂
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What I love about your blog is that you are very honest, I mean I assume so since I don’t know you either. I’ve tried to figure out the followers to likes and shares and it never seems to follow a rule. I do share my posts with family but I don’t have a personal-feelings kind of blog. Having said that I don’t think any of them read it😊
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Hahaha – I love how every comment on the this post says that their friends and family don’t read their blogs! We all need better friends! JK! 😀 😀
I really wish I could be more brutally honest – but I think I’d offend people! (I am a people pleaser.)
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I’m with you on some of these points. I only follow blogs that I think I’ll enjoy, whether it be based on topic or just the way the author writes. I also kind of zone out when the post is comparable to a novel. Some I’ve seen are WAY TOO long.
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OMG same! If I scroll two times and I don’t see an end in sight – I just jump to the last paragraph straight! I don’t mind long posts if they are super engaging but usually long posts tend to lose steam mid way!
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Number 3! I agree. And some people will get mad at you for not following back 😂😭 Like, if I don’t really vibe with your content, I won’t follow. We all have preferences.
You spilt all the tea on number 8 🤭🤭
I would love to meet you 😪
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I also HATE it when people don’t use paragraphs 😂 I click off the moment I see one gigantic paragraph.
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Hahah I knew number 8 was going to be a controversial one but I had to say it!!! 😀 😀
I would love to meet you too! Hopefully some day – in a post pandemic world! ❤
I also don't like posts that don't have paras – one giant post is so difficult to concentrate through!
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Omg I can relate.
I can 100 percent relate to not sharing this with friends and family, I don’t exactly want them to know what I do on the blog, since it’s like my online safe space, where no one judges me. I understand the whole statistics thing as well, it’s genuinely frustrating, like once you return from a small break the stats are down to zero, so it actually takes a lot of work running the blog and a lot of time. Blogging is in no way easy, and people keep talking about earning from it, I highly doubt that as well!
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Don’t worry – now that you’re back, your stats will go up soon! ❤ But yeah the follower – engagement ratio is just skewed! Definitely follow Shelly from Growing with Spawn – she has really helpful tips on growing and monetizing a blog. I haven't monetized yet but I want to some day in the future and her tips are really useful! 🙂
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Oh thank you for the tip, I will follow her!🌈♥️
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Wow what an honest confessions. I really like this post. Like I felt that I should write a post about my blogging confessions and I think this is a great topic to write. Coming to sharing my blog posts I share with everyone lol I can say with this world. I don’t know why but from beginning I prefer this way and I am lucky to have my loved ones being so supportive of my blog. Yes I too check my WordPress now and then. My stats are not encouraging but I just started blogging as a hobby do it doesn’t matter that much. Okay remaining I want to save for my post lol. Really this post was relatable. Thank you for such a great post and I have already taken this idea of your post.
Happy weekend 💕
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Yayay! Can’t wait to read your confessions! 😀
Wow – you’re probably the only one whose family and friends read your blog – lucky!! 😀
Stats and growth is good to keep in mind but I don’t want to obsess over it and stop having fun while writing. 🙂
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Thank you I am comfortable from the beginning that everyone should read my blog and its open for this world. They even give me feedback too. You are right numbers shouldn’t dictate us. Sure very soon I will post my confessions:)
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Now that’s some Tea 🍵 !!!!! Haha I enjoyed this post so much, this is gonna be my best read of the day 😄 💖 and I have endless list of such confessions and ofcourse I relate to all of yours…. well I just wish I am not one of the bloggers, which you don’t like 😉😉😉 but who knows 🤷
Well I don’t really feel jealous but I just shake my head when I see people with no par level content with so many followers but then I think somewhere someone must be thinking same about my blog😆😆😆 and if I read someone’s too good content, it disheartening for me because then I start to think “Now that’s called content shivani, not like yours” 😅😅
And No one in my life except my best friend knows that I have a blog!! Even I didn’t tell my bestie the name of my site or anything… so yeah I can relate
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Aww – thank you for making my day! ❤
Hahahha – you are one of the bloggers I'd love to meet once this is all settled!! ❤
IKR? Some bloggers just write SO SO well that I am floored. I wish I get to that level some day. Practice makes perfect, I guess! 😀
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Ohhh this is so good tea LOL… wish I knew you personally I’d totally call you up and say, “#1, let’s discuss!” 🤣😂
I totally agree with #2 & #8. Particularly, #8 I feel bad but I really just can’t relate to them, same as if someone felt same about mine, I wouldn’t take offense at all!
I definitely look up to bloggers who are so on top of engagement, I feel very behind somedays and it gets overwhelming but I also want to return the love and support! I really enjoyed this post! 🙂
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Hahaha – I almost didn’t write #1 because I know a lot of people won’t relate and my reasons are totally immature. 😀
I am so glad you agree with #8 because I felt like I was going to get a lot of flak for it.
You’re doing really well engagement wise! It is quite difficult to manage with a full time job. I am always behind on responding to comments. (Case in point – this post!!) I’m sure we can all do better but I guess as long as we try, right? 🙂
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There were blogs which j was following previously but I ungolloeed doe to the type of content they put up which does not resonate with me.
Same applies now, before i follow any blog I already familiarized myself with it a couple of times…then I know what the blogger is about before i get any surprised.😆😆😆. Yooohh you’ve made pointers my friend. This is a type of a post I wishbone written..since you admitted tou sometimes feel the same with other bloggers 😆😆😆
You are such a realist😆😆😆..having to read the same questions answered by different bloggers ain’t to fun at all but they help to promote each other’s work.
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Same! I think when we start off – we are so uncertain about how to manage followers and blogger we follow that we tend to follow everyone that follows us or interacts with us. But with time we find out the bloggers we really click with and the ones we don’t. 🙂
Awww – thanks for saying that!
Haha – I mean I get the point of the interviews and I think they would be interesting if atleast the questions were different – customized for the type of blogger.
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Very true😅
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This is really good and relatable. I still haven’t come across bloggers that I absolutely don’t like. But generally, I don’t like the ones that just use the comments section just to shamelessly promote their own blog without reading a single word of what I’ve written.
Don’t worry about stats and followers not matching. I’ve been blogging for well over six years now. I’ll let you in on something – it’s probably never going to match. But all that matters is that you have a community who read your posts consistently. There are a lot of people who just follow and forget. It makes me wonder why they would do such a thing.
I tend to read multiple posts by a blogger before I decide whether to follow the blog or not. It has to be interesting to me.
It’s human nature to wonder why our own posts are not getting much attention while someone else’s mediocre posts get so much attention.
I share my blog with my family. I make sure that I nag them, especially my husband, until he reads it and guides his comments 🤣
I adore a lot of bloggers too. The community is too good.
You know what? Maybe I’ll do a confessions post myself. Thanks for the idea, HP.
Sorry to hear about your phone. That sucks! I hope you’ll be able to repair it.
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🤣 I nag my mom… my favorite pet peeve!
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😂😂😂
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I don’t like bloggers who nag me to follow them or like 10 posts of mine and disappear or keep liking my comments on other people’s posts but don’t engage directly with me. 😀
Ah – the stats game is forever going to be a bouncer.
hahah – the few times I did share it with my mum – she told me things I should change in my blog – and then I decided to stop sharing it altogether.
Yayay! Can’t wait to read your confessions!!! ❤
With the lockdown on I wasn't able to do much – so I'm currently phone less – which has also been a blessing in disguise (other than for work stuff). Hopefully I'll get my spare phone delivered tomorrow.
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I’ll definitely tag you when I’m done with my confessions post.
Oh, sorry to hear about your phone. What happened? If you don’t mind me asking. I hope you get your spare phone delivered soon.
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I dropped it while trying to turn off the alarm. 😀 The screen’s gone black! Need to take it to the service center this week. and funnily we don’t have any spare phones at home since we usually just exchange them when getting a new one.
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Uh oh. I hope you’ll be able to take it to the service centre soon. I know, now that we’re exchanging phones, it’s hard to find a spare phone.
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I will try this confession.. 🙂 I enjoyed reading your post 😁😁. I am Agnostic too 🤗 I’ll write my confessions soon..😉
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Yayay! Can’t wait to read your post! 😀
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The stats and follower counts don’t add up because many people who follow have no intention of reading any of our posts. I don’t understand that. All I can assume is that they’re hoping to get a follow back when they do that. One thing that you didn’t mention is the folks who come along and like 6-7 posts in the same minute. Now that’s speed reading.🤣 Do they not think we’ll notice?
There are too many blogs out there not to be selective. There are only so many hours in the day.
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6-7 is still a better number. I’ve got 30s to 50s on mine, which clear up all other unread notifications in queue. I hate such dumbness here. Why like when you haven’t read?
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Hahah those are the bloggers I dislike the most! They generally like 7-8 posts in under a minute and then disappear forever. I also get bugged by the bloggers who like all my comments on other bloggers’ posts but never interact with me directly. 😀
That is true – it is so hard to find time to even read the posts of bloggers that you really like!
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Ah, this is truly true (I don’t know if that phrase is correct!). I’ve just begun with blogging on WP, I yet have to face these things! But you make complete sense.
I find it awkward to share my blog with my family and friends too. I think blogging feels better when someone new comes and reads your posts. I have to think twice before I even type something or publish the post. I’m eventually gonna get sick of it, I’ll stop sharing my posts with them once I have consistent stats. For now, awkwardness galore it is!
Once again, a heartfelt post!
-Divi.
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Hahah yeah! I used to awkwardly force my family and friends to read my posts during the first 3-4 months but then I found my blogging family. I also enjoy being more honest here knowing people from my world aren’t reading it. 😀
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Yes, rightly said!
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I can relate to many of the confessions you have made…. Specially the ones about the reason for following a blog/ blogger…the non existent relationship between following/ likes and real engagement…
For me the real reason for following a blogger will always be the depth in their content..
Stay blessed 🙏😇
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Right? I used to think that I’m the only one who notices the lack of engagement by majority of followers but I think most of us face it.
Thank you 🙂
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🙏🙏
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I can totally feel you, except for the one about sharing with family. Even if I do, there are just 1 or 2 idle souls that read!
One thing I wanted to add… WordPress eats my time. Yeah, I follow only a few blogs purely based on my interests, but it’s difficult to resist reading them all when personal schedule is already squeezing. If I don’t read, at times, I feel guilty of having let down my regular readers. However, I stop to comment only when I’m actually free. I’m not sure if I’m the only one who’s feeling this way.
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Also, I’m sorry about your phone. It’s a heavy feeling.
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😦 yeah -it is also weird not having access to my phone – like it feels like a part of me after the amount of time I spent on it in this lockdown
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I totally understand not having enough time to interact. I usually push on replying to comments (which is why the delayed response on this too) and spend my time engaging on other bloggers’ posts instead. But it is totally understandable…on a busy day I read and like posts but don’t comment!
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First time to drop by here. nice blog and I must say I can relate on the post 🙂
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Thank you 🙂 So happy to have you be a part of my blogging fam!
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I think it’s natural and my family doesn’t read what I write either. Sadly, I don’t think they’d read it even if I did share. But I like having my own world, friends, outlet.
There is content that I also don’t like so I won’t just hit the like button just because they liked me back. I know, I don’t play the game right. 😛 Typically it’s just really negative stuff or too preachy. I’m so over being on the receiving end of a wagging finger or screed, you know?
Take care, girl, xxoo
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Thank God for blogging families who read our content all the time! 🙂
I so get you – preachy content gets me too. I prefer reading more real and honest content!
Thank you 🙂
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Your confessions are so good! Love them. Me and you have alot in common. My blog is also a secret from the people in my real life and I can be more real here without their judgment or opinions making me censor myself. And I also don’t like some other bloggers, especially the shopping ones you mentioned bc I’m a cheapskate and don’t like spending money. Lol. Great post!
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Hahah! I am so glad you relate! I was half afraid that I was going to get a lot of flak for this! 😀
It is so much easier to just be yourself when its away from people that you know!
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oofff.. I relate to a lot of these, but specifically 5.. It’s just so much easier to be myself online than in person..
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Hard agree with everything u said. My family doesn’t know that I blog and I am too self conscious to show them🙈. I also didnt want to follow some bloggers whose contents I wasnt interested to read but I did it anyway because I used to do it anyway because I thought as a new blogger it’s necessary to do. I am still very confused about this part of blogging. Sometimes they will read my post and comment on it and follow me and I do the same with them. But I hardly see them reacting to my post after that. It’s like they only read my post to get me to follow them. It’s hard to know people online.
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That is true. It takes a few months to understand it all. I was fairly confused for the first 6 months too. I’d follow back a lot of people who’d follow me but now I only follow people with content that I enjoy reading. It took time but now I have a core blogging family of 50-60 people that I know I can count on – so I don’t bother following back. I’m sure you’ll get there soon too. ❤ ❤
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My family and friends do not know about my blog, it’s like I live a secret life lol. I don’t really like when people spam like all of my posts and then comment for me to do it back, it feels like they don’t care about my content but just want their stats to go up. You hit the nail on the head with every single confession, this was a great read!
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I know! It annoys me more when they leave multiple comments asking me to check out their blogs. I usually do that anywho when a new person interacts with me but this just bugs me so much!
There are also these 3-4 bloggers who like my comments on all other blogger’s posts but don’t interact with me directly ever. 😀
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I’m glad to hear that there are a bunch of other people who don’t tell their friends and family about their blog. I can relate to a lot of your other confessions.😁This was a fun post idea!
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Hahah same! I used to think that I’m the odd one out but I guess it is the norm. 😀
Thank you so much 🙂
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I am guilty with everything that you just said and I also confess that I sometimes like a blog post without reading it 🤭
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shhhh… we all do that! 😀 😀
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Can’t believe we’re so similar!!! I could relate to every single thing you mentioned here!
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I am so glad! I thought everyone is going to hate on me for this post! 😀
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That’s absolutely not true, loved the post!
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Oh dear, I hope you get your phone screen fixed up soon! For me there’s nothing more embarrassing than having someone in the family read my post out loud. That will always be awkward and I’ll tell them to please read in their head lest I die of embarrassment!
I’m also disappointed with my stats, honestly. I don’t know what it is. How can over a thousand people follow yet fail to engage? It’s just awkward but much worse on Instagram. Over here though, It’s not a matter of algorithm. I guess it depends on how many other people your followers follow and therefore how high (or low) you end up on the priority list.
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True!!!! The stats just keep baffling me! But I guess as long as its fun – it shouldn’t matter. 😊
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Your list is super honest. I admire you for being able to own them up… it is pretty healthy to acknowledge these facts…. I liked how you accept being insecure with your stats and being jealous of some bloggers, believe me, this happens to the best of us. But yes, it’s the good kind of jealously…
I too don’t share my blog to family and real life friends for reasons that well, I often write about them. But it’s just there, no secret, it’s up to them to discover plus I don’t write bad stuff about them, I write anecdotes 🙂
Something stressful happened to me the entire 2020 til first qtr of 2021, I ghosted everyone I know IRL, when they finally saw me active again online (messenger), everyone asked me as to why I hibernated… (they knew I do that when something is wrong)… I had to share them a blog post that detailed everything I had to endure during my absence on socmed (to avoid having to explain things one by one)… so in just one sitting, they got to read my narrative of the past yr — my blog is no longer a secret though.
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Thank you so much!❤️
Same – I often share things about my family or friends and it isn’t really a secret but I prefer if they don’t read any of it to make me feel less conscious when sharing stories about them.
Oh. I hope things are better now and that you’re feeling less stressed out. I’ll definitely checkout your blog to know more but if you need to talk to a totally anonymous person – I’m here. ❤️
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So thoughtful of you — thank you very much! ❤ And you are absolutely right about being more conscious when they know we're sharing stories about them 😀 😀 😀
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This is so funny😂God Moksha -I broke my phone screen couple of months ago and now I am living with my battered screen, although I got used to it now😂
I agree with everything -one especially that gets on my nerves are stats (number of followers don’t match the engagements -not even close) I gave up now, I am just floating on WP app🤷🏽♀️🌼 xx
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My screen stopped working all together + lockdown meant I couldn’t get another one or get this repaired. I’ve finally gotten a spare phone today. So yayay! Dreading the cost of fixing up my old phone – if the prices online are right. 🥺
So I’ve gotten to a point where my stats don’t bother me but so many people leave comments that hint at the 1000+ followers I have and it makes me feel very conscious. 🙈
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Don’t be! It’s your writing that makes all the difference. I don’t know about you but for me -when my words have an impact on even one person -it makes everything worth it. And I got to say -this is me every time I read any of your post and I am sure it’s the same case for so many others. Full of beautiful tales infused with humour🧡
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Yup, no way I’m telling my folks about my blog. That would just feel too awkward.
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Really? I assumed your family would be in with your goal to save money – so they’d enjoy the blog – since it marks your progress!
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Oh, they’d definately be supportive. Problem is they’d enjoy reading the blog too much and always want to talk about it 🤣. It’s a good problem I suppose…
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I appreciate your honesty…just don’t know how jealousy serves you. Years ago, I travelled to Ireland to attend the Yeats School in Sligo. One night, a group of us found our way to a community gathering (I think in a barn, which was hot due to the crowd’s body heat). The room was electric, as different members of the crowd sang songs and played traditional Irish music. What I loved about it was that not everyone could sing perfectly, or even on key. After each person performed, the crowd roared, laughed and stomped their feet. It was so different from America, where perfection is exalted. I sort of think the blogosphere is like that. Different topics, different levels of talent, but I love how people put their hearts and minds out there, connecting with others, in a world where community and making connections seem harder everyday. There’s something so beautiful about just the effort that makes me happy.
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That’s a beautiful story!!! Thanks for sharing that!
I think jealousy isn’t always bad – sometimes its good especially if it motivates you to do better. At least that’s what it does for me! 😊
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Yes! I do love your honesty. Nothing like a good confession.
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Haha this was a good read! I loved this post! I agree with many of your points. I get some random followers that I just don’t understand. I haven’t really made any blogger friends so I am keeping my fingers crossed 🙂 though there are def some I do not like 🙃
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Hahah. Some random followers can be annoying – they like 10 posts, drop a random comment and disappear into a black hole. 🤣
You’ll find your blogging fam soon – it took me a few months. But it is amazing to have them around, cheering you on. 😊
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Thanks so much.
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I guess blogging comes as a package with ups and downs. I think is absolutely normal to like some bloggers and their topics and to like less other bloggers and their topics. Personally I see this blogosphere as a perfect point to meet people all around the world that may have my same hobbies 😁 And that’s wonderful! Don’t be too harsh with yourself! Enjoy it until the internet is working 😉
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Hahah true! I personally don’t like bloggers who beg for attention – with liking all my posts in under a minute to dropping comments asking me to check their blog without reading my post – it’s just annoying. 🙈
But I’ve made so many friends here – friends I hope to meet some day – so I agree, blogging is a wonderful world.
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I loved this post, and all its honesty! My confession would be that I dread the “blog hopping”: visiting other people’s blogs to read articles – not because I don’t like it (as I matter of fact I really love reading other people’s blogs), but because I don’t do it very regularly so when I do find some time for it, I end up with 20+ tabs opened for a few days and it is very overwhelming! I also don’t share my blog with friends and family, and some of my friends don’t even know that I have a blog! 😊
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I have allocated specific time in the day just to go through other people’s posts but it still gets overwhelming on some days when im short on time – so I totally get it. On bad days – I skim through blogs. Shhh. 🙈
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Oh, I can relate. Especially with the jealousy when I see a beautifully written post and I am fully aware of the fact that I probably would not be able to create anything of similar quality. English is technically my second language. Fair enough, I started learning when I was 3 years old, but I did not live in an English speaking country until I was 20-something. Oh well, no point in being sad about it but still… 😅
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Keeping this blog life separate is my choice as well. I feel this is my personal space where I pour my heart without any filters. You know how we have to keep the filters on otherwise in family and friends.. but yes, I will admit, in the beginning, I used to share my posts with my friends and used to force them to read like I was looking for some validation and appreciation. But not any more..My blog is my personal space and I don’t need anybody’s appreciation or validation. I feel satisfied writing here and even the minimum likes I get makes feel good.
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I kind of have the opposite problem: I share my blog posts with friends and family but they rarely ever read or like or comment on any of my posts, which used to hurt my feelings. But now that I’m creating friendships within the blogging community, it doesn’t hurt as much. Great post!
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