I can totally imagine everyone reading this and doubling with laughter at the stupid things I have done. I am a silly, old-school romantic who just wants a Jane Austen-ish love story. Boy, have I done some stupid things in my search for true love. I haven’t dated a lot – so some of these stupid things I did for the same people. *CRINGE ALERT*
- Believed that I was the “only” one they were seeing *MELODRAMATIC SIGH*
- Made a joint Spotify playlist with someone after the first date *FACEPALM*
- Believed that they weren’t the “committing type” *He got married to the girl he dated after me*
- Blindly believed that “she is just a friend” *ARGH. Why do people do this?*
- Took a selfie him after a really good FIRST date *CRINGE CRINGE CRINGE*
- Met his family and went for his brother’s wedding – even though he wouldn’t commit *CAN I GO BACK IN TIME AND SMACK MYSELF*
- Dated two guys at the same time (as in went on a few dates with both and both knew) *SO MUCH STRESS TRYING TO PICK ONE*
- Believed when he said “can’t wait to see you again” *We never saw each other again*
- Ignored every glaring red flag till the red flag was stabbed into my heart *CRIES*
- Found the nice, sweet, drama free, mature, settled, emotionally available guy – boring (more than 1 such guy). *LITERALLY CRYING* (Drama is hot – there I said it.)
I’ve done a lot more stupid things but if I sit down to list them all, it is going to be a super long post. What are some stupid things you’ve done in your dating life? Don’t leave me being the only stupid one there. 😒
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Totally relatable! Believed i was the only one after literally analyzing every play by play… Lol then finding out I wasn’t… He was a Casanova!, 🙄😑
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SAME! I spent so much time analyzing each message and conversation – and was like – yaa – I’m the only one – and boom! Dating is so so difficult!
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First, I LOVE how romantic you are, I’m the same way. You’ll DEF find love with that kind of vulnerability, I’m sure of it! Probably with a guy like #10 (sorry but it’s true! Drama is totally hot but it hurts ha! 🤣). Dumb things I’ve done, too many. But a few are: definitely after ONE date I’d imagine our wedding. Yup. Went on a date with a guy who midway starts telling me about his girlfriend?!?!? Def guilty of over texting after a first date and never hearing from them again! The list goes on… 😬🙄💖love this post!
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Haha, I’ve went on a date with a guy that Midway started telling me about his girlfriend too! Ugh
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Ridiculous, right?!?!
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Yes! One time it led to over 3 years of back and forth toxicity. Hopefully I’ve learned the lesson so I do not waste that much time ever again
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Oops, I thought I was replying to one of the comments about ignoring red flags. The guy that told me about his girlfriend Midway through the date, I ended the date immediately and would not see him again even though he was a guy I knew since elementary school.
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Yes I hope that for you too, ha! The real thing is way less drama but so fulfilling! 💖☺️ We all deserve that 😘
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OMG – the same things has happened with me! Mid first date, this guy starts telling me about his girlfriend of 7 years! And I’m like…then why are you on a dating app? He was literally on every single dating app out there!!!!
And arghh – I so want to pick the number 10 guy – but I end up missing the drama and creating drama myself.
Thank you – hoping to find him sooon! ❤
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Ha ok I’m glad I’m not the only one, even though I’m sorry it happened to you too! Guys are ridiculous ha! 🤣 And I TOTALLY know what u mean about creating drama too 💖🤩 You’ll find someone, I’m 💯 positive! And he’ll be a perfect combination of nice and caring and smart, but there will also be chemistry and great passion with this kind of guy! Omg I can’t wait to see what happens, goddess 🦋
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Ah, great post! 🙌
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Thank you 😀
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I can unfortunately related to 9 and 1 especially 9.
When looking back the red flags are so clear and I saw them at the time but at a differently light. I just ignored them until one huge one literally stabbed me in my heart.
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I’m relating to number nine very well, just like you!
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I think I have this saviour complex – where I see the red flags – but think oh I can change/save him – and unfortunately I am always wrong.
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😉 Ah, the joys of dating!
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Some days are fun – some days you are left wondering how you end up attracting the worst ones. 😀
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😬😬 right? The dating pool is the same no matter where you go! 🤪
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😅🤣🤣i forgave my ex who was my bf back then even after catching him cheating on me.
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Argh. Though I’m not sure – I always had an inkling that my ex cheated too – considering he moved on to his next girl immediately (like the next day). But yeah – the stupid things we do in our quest for love *SIGH*
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Dont regret any part of my past…,cuz I’m very happy that I learn not to give too much of attention to those who dont really deserve. #lifelesson.🤣🌼
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I totally relate to some points. i hope i dont get left broken again. But i never dated two at one time and 😅 im scared again that something bad will happen… Also im so overthinker
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Totally get it – same feelings. Here’s hoping for a better, beautiful future relationship 🙂
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I have ignored all red flags too and chosen people who were terrible for me!
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Same here!
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I have done number nine way too many times. I’m very good at ignoring red flags just because I like it guys personality or looks. I feel like I’ve learned the lesson but haven’t really tested it out for a while.
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It is so tempting to ignore red flags when you start seeing someone – especially if you have chemistry with that person – but boy does it hurt later. 😦
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I’m not sure if I should be happy or sad that I could relate to almost everything on this list 🤭But seriously goodluck on your journey to find love! ♥️
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The fact that you dated two guys at the same time and they knew is hilarious to me. 😂 as they should anyway.
The red flags!! That is so me. I have the worst stories when it comes to ignoring red flags and making excuses for someone every time they do something wrong to me.
I’d like to go back in time and just stay home on the day I met the guy I ignored all red flags for.
I think the fact that we bumped into each other on the staircase the first time we met made me blind. It was a cute meeting. 😂😂
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Your list is great! #3 is downright funny, though probably not so much at the time. I just sent my middle-grade story to the editor, and I had fun writing it because the main character is a male 7th grader. It brought back many twelve-year-old memories. One of my biggies at that age was to second guess every move I made. On top of that, I had no moves.🤣
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😂😂Don’t even talk to me about #3 —why shit like this always happens and after that you feel so crap as well. Anyways, their loss!
Tell me more about #7 -who did you pick? How did you pick? 😂😂I am sorry, I am too nosy😂😂xx
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Hahha 7 and 10 are connected. Always always pick the red flag over the mature, sensible dude. 🙈
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Amazing post
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“Met his family and went for his brother’s wedding – even though he wouldn’t commit”…..this one is some.
I dated a guy for almost four years, his family knew me, I even attended his brother’s wedding too and I was just convinced that I found the love of my life.😆😆😆stupid me
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Hahah. The “love of life” that didn’t work out situation – face palm. 🙈
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Why do we try to convince ourselves someone is great when the truth is staring us in the face 😭
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IKR!!??? I don’t know why we do it – so so silly. 🙈
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Lol. No.7 is out of the world 😀
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haha.. this must be funny as well a bit melancholic. Seriously, i mean how else should one learn about life if not this way but yes many things can be done right if only we learn and understand about time, about patience, about intent. Lovely post Panda ji 🙂
Narayan x
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Haha..” Jane Austenish”,that resonates with me😉
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Ah, happy to meet a fellow old school romantic. ☺️
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Lol been there and done that to most of these so if it makes you feel any better you’re definitely not alone!
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Hahah – it is a relief to know that I am not the only one making these mistakes. I was scared to put this out and have people think I’m a gullible dummy. 😀
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Lol yeah it must have been hard to share such personal stuff but you’re definitely not a dummy and even if you are we’re all dummies here so you’re fine 😂
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“Believed when he said “can’t wait to see you again” *We never saw each other again*”😂😂😂lmao
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As a married woman, I guess I am old school. It’s a rariy I know but I think some men never grow up or are very insecure especially in the “middle ages” if I culd give some advice is actions always speak louder than words.
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Definitely – though I haven’t dated any middle aged man yet – but even men my own age are often immature.
Thank you for the advice. 😊
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