Note: I wrote this post 2 months back but just didn’t feel like it said everything I wanted to and still feel that way. But I hope you get the sentiment behind this post.
Hi Goddess- yes, you – this one’s for you!
To the woman walking home after dark -eager to get home quickly, clutching on to her phone tight incase she needs to make a quick call
To the woman going on a date – wanting to have a good time but worrying that her red lipstick might give him the wrong idea
To the woman afraid of the lockdown – and the abuse that follows from being locked up with her husband
To the teenage girl heading to school – nervously tugging at her school uniform’s skirt as men pass by leering at her
To the newly married woman – passed over for that promotion at work cause soon she’ll be starting a family and then work would come second
To the divorced woman – subjected to judgements ranging from affair to infertility
To the girl on the crowded metro – trying to find a corner to avoid the ‘innocent’ pushes and pulls of bystanders
To the skinny girl – tired of hearing the ‘you’ll fly away with the wind’ joke
To the curvy girl – feeling conscious in her sleeveless top
To the young girl playing on her uncle’s lap – unaware that his hands shouldn’t be that high up her skirt
To the woman excited to wear her new dress – only to be catcalled as soon she walks out of her apartment building
To the working woman – called incomplete for not having found a mate yet
To the home maker – unappreciated for all the work big & small that she does, almost invisible to those she loves the most
To the woman who wasn’t believed – when she called out her boss on his inappropriate ‘innocent’ touches
To the woman who was mocked – for being too sensitive and crying too much
To the woman who was called ‘psycho’ – for not trusting her cheating boyfriend
To the solo woman traveller – feeling nervous as she heads for the hike by herself
To the woman who has to work twice as hard as her male colleague – to prove that she wasn’t just hired for how she looks
To ALL the women – labelled, judged, ridiculed, scarred, oppressed, hurt, ignored, forced to conform to ridiculous beauty standards, forced to conform to a patriarchal society and forced to compete with each other.
It isn’t easy to function in a society that has been developed to block your every move – but you make me so proud. You fight all your demons & the naysayers and slay every single day! Ignore the noise that tries to drown out your success. Enjoy your drink and your dresses. Choose what makes you happy. Stop sacrificing in the name of love. Walk out of that job or relationship if it doesn’t make you happy. Curvy or skinny – own your body and be proud. Pull up your fellow goddesses. Stop questioning other women’s narratives. Ask for help when you need it. Stop making excuses for bad behaviour. Stop settling. Trust your gut. Choose yourself over others. Stop feeling guilty. Learn to say no. And above all have faith in your self no matter what!
Some things are harder to change but if we work together today, we can leave a more beautiful world for our daughters. Lets smash the patriarchy*!
If you liked this post, check out my post on things that need to change in society for women.
*But what is the meaning of “Smash The Patriarchy”? Smash The Patriarchy (or Down With The Patriarchy) refers to challenging the dominant social, political, cultural, and economic thoughts that value the idea of hegemonic, toxic masculinity over everything.
PS: For everyone that thinks that feminism means asking for ‘special’ treatment for women, it isn’t. It is just about being treated absolutely equal with men – no gender conforming roles and attitudes. Patriarchy is so instilled in all of us, including women, it is difficult to identify and resolve. Eg 1: every single form in India asks for father/husband’s name? Why hasn’t this changed by now considering there are so many more women opting to be single parents? Eg 2: Judging women – this is so instilled in all of us. If a drunk woman is raped – everyone’s first thought is – she was asking for it. Being a feminist means changing these perceptions to neutral ones.
Disclaimer: I am not encouraging drinking – it isn’t good for your liver and health and can become an addiction for many. But enjoying a drink or two – once in a while is totally ok. Please be safe while drinking.
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