While most of my dating posts are written on a lighter note, I did want to share some of the not-so-great parts of my dating life too. I did a post about my best three dates and while I wish most dates went that way, I’ve had my share of ARGHHH dates too. By sharing these experiences, I also hope to educate some of my younger audience about dealing with some of the situations they might find themselves in. So here are the three worst dates of my life –
THE ABSOLUTE WORST DATE OF MY LIFE
This happened way back in 2019 when I had just started dating again after a really bad heart break. I started chatting with this guy on a dating app and he seemed normal although a little pushy about sharing personal details (which I didn’t). Anyhow one Saturday night about 2 weeks into chatting, he asked to meet and I was bored at home and agreed. From the onset of our meeting, I could tell that he wasn’t someone I could be romantically into and kind of wanted to end the date fast and go back to my lazy weekend. This next part is a little hard to write since it is something that I haven’t told a lot of people too. But he kept trying to put his hand on me – hold my hand, run his hand on my back and I kept swatting his hand away. I decided to call it a night and just get away from him but he kept insisting that I should go back to his place. The “insisting” got very scary since he wouldn’t take no for an answer and the few minutes I waited for my cab were really scary. I got into the cab and literally RAN away from him. He messaged later and tried to make me feel guilty – but I never met him again.
Takeaways for people who are dating – ALWAYS meet in a public place atleast for the first few dates. DO NOT give in to anything that you don’t want to do even if the person is being persistent or guilt tripping you. Tell a friend where you are going and with whom. If you feel uncomfortable at any point, LEAVE without feeling apologetic. Don’t drink too much on a first date, I’m not being a prude but it is always better to be in control of all your faculties. Make sure your phone is charged and have some basic cash on you (for worst case scenarios).
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The ‘I LOVE YOU’ date
This one is a recent date from 2 months back. Again within a few minutes of meeting, I knew it wasn’t it (always trust your gut). In these situations I usually just try to get through to that 1.5 hours mark and then make an excuse to leave. While the date wasn’t going wow, our chats had been really fun and at the 30th minute mark, while I was prepping my excuse, he suddenly grabs my hand and says – “I love you”. I kid you not, I half choked on the slice of pizza I was eating. He kept going on about his “strong” feelings while I tried to regain my composure. I tried reasoning with him and explaining how it wasn’t “love” but he wouldn’t listen. At this point I became acutely aware of how silent the people at the next table had gotten, they had decided that our conversation was far more interesting than their own. I could have just died of embarrassment. I tried ending the dinner and leaving but he didn’t want to – so I finally asked for the bill – paid and left.
Takeaways for people who are dating – As “serendipitous” as it may seem in chat, you can never really know how you feel till you meet someone. Have realistic expectations from dates and don’t start making ‘castles in the air’ basis some conversations on chats. Also, ALWAYS listen to that gut feeling. A lot of times we are so keen to make something work out we just ignore it but that gut is right 99% of times.
The Shocker Of A Date
This one was a really sad worst date. I met this incredibly gorgeous nerdy boy for a date and it was going so good. He was THE perfect boy that I had always wanted – very very cute (like my heart skipped a beat on seeing his smile cute), very nerdy, working in a similar role and equally well educated. It literally seemed like my dream was coming true. We totally lost track of time as we talked on and on. As the time came for us to leave, he seemed to be building up the courage to tell me something – I was hoping he was just working out the nerve to ask for a second date. He says, “Listen this was fun and I’d love to take you out again.” <My heart started doing a mini-dance> “But there is something you should know.” <Oh, no> “I already have a long time girlfriend but we are sort of in a long distance relationship so I am just on dating apps to have some fun before we move to the same city again.” <WHUUUUUUT> “I just thought it was the decent thing to do to tell you now.” <Brain freeze, heart dies>
Takeaways for people who are dating – If it sounds like it is too good to be true, it probably is. *sniffs*
As much as I love sharing the fun and funnier aspect of my dating life, I do also want to be real and share the not-so-pretty moments. Moments that made me want to become a monk and just go on a journey away from all mankind. Have you been on any bad dates? Which was the absolute worst one?
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PS: Checkout my dear friend – Lebogang’s post – it is so cute and I love that I am included in it
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