In the last few months, I’ve been trying to be more open in my posts, trying to share parts of my life that I am not always comfortable talking about. While some bloggers choose to show the glossy parts of their life, I want my blog to be messy – a place where other people who are struggling find solace in knowing that they aren’t alone. But while I do want to share about most aspects of my life and also share my thoughts openly about topics, there are some things that I avoid talking about in my posts. The reasons are varied – from not wanting to share stories with an impressionable audience (I do have teens following me) to just not wanting to stir controversy. So I am going to cover them all in this one post and you’ll know why I don’t mention them in other posts.
Things I don’t write about in my blog –
- Smoking– I don’t know if this will come as a shocker but I used to smoke till about 2 years back. I started smoking in B-school out of pressure and peer pressure. At the height of my addiction, I smoked about 2-3 cigs a day. Despite not being hugely addicted, it took me 2 years of trying to finally stop craving a cigarette every time I was low or stressed out. I’m thankful that I kicked the habit before I entered my 30s. I’ve never written about it because I don’t want to influence anyone else into trying out smoking. It is a terrible habit.
- Drugs – I just don’t have anything to write about on this topic.
- Sex – While I don’t think of it as taboo, I am generally averse to explicitly writing about sex. Again, I do worry about the impressionable audience reading my posts and hence, skip this topic altogether even from my dating posts. I do want to do a post around sex advice for young adults, lets’s see if that sees the light of the day. (If you are a young adult, would you be interested in such a post?) It is ironic that I was influenced by Carrie’s column in ‘Sex and the City’ to start this blog.
- Political views – I have very strong views on the political situation in India but I refrain from writing about it since I don’t want to hurt/confront people with opposing views. I also refrain from explicitly talking about the interfering and sometimes infuriating politics of Western countries.
- Religion – I did one post on ‘why I am agnostic’. I won’t write about religious beliefs or religion again in my posts.
What are some topics that you consciously or unconsciously censor out from your blog posts?
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I appreciate your honesty! I used to write a lot about politics, but I was also rage blogging. I had a lot of anger moving from the US. I’ve mellowed out more since then
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My dad smoked for 52 years before he finally stopped. It took a health scare to do it. It’s a nasty habit. Glad you were able to break it.
For my blog, I try to stick to makeup, skincare, and health and fitness. I try not to get too personal with the items you’ve stated above. I don’t feel like arguing with people I don’t know. Ha ha!
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I’m kinda glad you don’t write about those things, because I wouldn’t want to read about them. I’m sure there are people who would, I suppose, but not me. Posts about politics make my eyes glaze over 😅
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I love this idea! I feel like I’m on the same page as you with almost all of these topics. I also don’t share about my older half sister because we’re estranged and is still kind of painful. And I wouldn’t ever want her to read anything bad if she happened to see this. So I keep that to myself. But you definitely covered the topics I avoid as well and I agree for the same reasons.
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I’m with you on 4 and 5. I’ve written drafts of rants on both politics and religion. I won’t publish them, though.
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I don’t write about hot button items because I don’t want my blog to become like Facebook. People waste so many hours rehashing their beliefs, looking for others who feel the same way, insulting people who disagree with them, by calling them names.
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Yesssss. I often wonder how people have the kind of time to actually spends hours arguing with strangers on the internet!
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Writting is sometimes expressing our those thoughts which we don’t want to discuss with people face to face. But still if you are not sure about a few topics, just write and leave them unpublished.
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Thank you for the advice. Totally makes sense to do that! ❤️
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I generally avoid most of these topics too for very similar reasons. I personally just prefer not to write about really controversial topics since I know I’m not going to change my mind about it and don’t want to argue with people in the comments section lol. I was surprised to learn you’re a smoker but I’m glad you were able to stop.
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I know what you mean. I definitely don’t want to get into an argument in the comments. I very rarely stir controversy in the blogosphere. (Sometimes I get annoyed when I read foreigners’ travel stories to India which are very skewed and then I end up arguing on their posts. 🙈)
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Love your honest sharing and quoting smoking Ru!!🙌🙌🙌🙌
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Thank you ❤️
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💖💖welcome!
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Great topic! I suppose I want to focus on my mental health recovery, so I don’t expect I’ll write about much outside of that. That said, mental health is impacted by so many things in our lives- including politics. So, I guess if I felt it was relevant I would include it in a post.
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That makes sense! If the post calls for it, definitely don’t shy away from mentioning it.
I just want to avoid any debates with people with opposing views and hence, skip topics like politics and religion.
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Some things are better discussed in private
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Well said! 🙂
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