I’ve been rewatching ‘How I Met Your Mother’ over the past few weeks. I first started watching it almost a decade back, as a single 20-year-old, wondering why Ted wasn’t just able to find love when it was the one thing he wanted so bad. As much as I related to his dating fails, I hoped I wouldn’t have to wait as long as he to find the one. But as I rewatched his struggles I realized that in the last decade I had become him. From being a hopeless romantic to holding on to the hope that someone was the one to giving up on love – I’ve experienced all the phases that he went through. And then came an episode that just made a lot of sense to me….
Since, I don’t want to give away spoilers, I’m going to use code names for the characters. X leaves Y at the altar and when asked why he says because she is his “Beinaheleiden Schaftsgegenstand” – which loosely translates to “the thing that is almost the thing you want but not quite.”
My entire dating life over the past few years flashed in front of my eyes. All these situations where I met these seemingly perfect guys that I had a good equation with but every single time it just felt like something was missing. I’ve written about this in my previous dating posts as well – how I’d force myself to keep dating these guys just cause nothing was wrong. And it just made sense – they were the thing that is almost the thing that I want but not quite.
I’ve been told by many friends that I am being picky. But this episode, as fictional as the show is, helped validate my experiences cause I was starting to think that I really might be the problem (I’m not saying I am problem-free). As much as I wanted the guys I dated to be the one, it always just fell a little short. *sigh*
But here’s to not giving up hope – to finding my lebenslangerschicksalsschatz.
Have you watched ‘How I Met Your Mother’?
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