Have you ever met someone and instantly felt like you have some connection with them? Some unexplainable bond that exists even though you barely know them? Something pulling at your heart strings reminding you of maybe a bond you shared in a different lifetime? Something that almost feels like your heart recognises their heart? Maybe a kind soul identifying another one?
I have met a handful of people across my life that I’ve instantly felt like I have some connection with. I used to find it extremely weird when I’d meet someone new and yet feel like I already had some bond with them. The first time I remember feeling this kinship was at a family friend’s wedding and it was extremely awkward. I was 22-23 years old. I felt this instant connection with the groom at the wedding. I felt so weird because I thought I had developed a crush on the groom on his wedding day without even knowing him. But I’ve known him for almost a decade now and over that time, I have come to understand that it wasn’t romantic feelings at all…it was a sort of kinship. Something I still feel to this day.
I can totally see how this post could read as crazy for those who haven’t felt these connections. I don’t think a lot of people sense these instant bonds. My overthinking has led me to the conclusion that the people who do sense these connections are the sensitive kind, people who over-feel every emotion. People who are so in-tune with their emotions that they are able to tell when their heart is able to recognise one of their own.
So what do I think these connections mean? I have a variety of theories that vary from believable to crazy. The most believable one that I think is that kindred souls are able to recognise each other even without knowing each other. The craziest one is that in another life we were related to each other – siblings, partners, parent-child, friends – some relation and in this lifetime, our souls are still able to recognise that connection.
I probably wouldn’t have given this a lot of thought, if after that first time I wouldn’t have felt such connections but I’ve met a handful of people who have made me feel this connection and forced me to give this a real thought. I’ve always wondered if I was crazy but I’ve found these people also gravitate towards me without rhyme or reason. Eg: if we were introduced to each other in a group, we’d end up gravitating more towards each other and feel more comfortable with each other. But I’ve never shared these thoughts out loud with anyone.
Have you felt these kinds of instant connections with total strangers? Like your soul recognises theirs? (Not in a romantic sense only)
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Yes, I’ve definitely felt this way with soulmates, especially with my now-husband. We clicked immediately and I just knew he was my “new best friend.” I told my mom, “I have a best friend and it’s a boy!” My mom warned me not to get too attached too quickly, but I just knew it in my heart. I told my mom this before I met my husband in person. We met on a dating site.
As for platonic friends, that water is harder to navigate I find. Ppl pretend they like me only to find out they actually don’t… it’s confusing. And honestly, my husband IS my best friend. We’ve been married for 6 years so we definitely vibe.
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I totally get you as I too have felt this connection before. And your thoughts about it are apt.
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I have felt it, but there is also a caveat. Toxic people know how to vibe with others to make them think there is a connection when there really isn’t. Narcissists know how to do this to a T! A vibe is good, but it’s not enough to have someone in your life. There has to be something more
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I’ve felt both – and there is a slight difference in the feelings for me. Eg: with my ex who was highly toxic to me – there was this instant attraction. But it wasn’t like the connections I have felt for these other people. With them, it was a pure kinship, like we’d known each other even before knowing each other. It wasn’t also romantic. It was just a feeling of kinship.
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I see what you’re saying. I certainly have felt both too, it’s the times where there is a fine line between those that are problematic, and the trouble is, the most skilled narcissist knows how to work that so well
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As @THIRD CULTURE KID said, sometimes we can inadvertently connect with toxic or very damaged people. That happened with me with my first husband, we vibed together because we had both experienced the same kinds of abuse in our lives. My wedding ring was in the shape of nested tear drops, symbolizing our tears. However, that isn’t a healthy basis for a long-term relationship! I think when we feel an instant connection, it’s a good idea to look deeper to see what it is based on!
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That’s such a heartwarming post! I don’t know if that’s the same as what you’re describing, but there are times when I’ve felt like I *knew* I could be friends with a person I’ve just met, and I also have a friend of mine with whom I do feel a strong underlying connection – like we understand each other, but absolutely not in a romantic sense! I personally love the idea of “kindred souls”, and it reminds me f the show Anne with an E!
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OMG. That’s where I got it from – the book – Anne of Green Gables. ❤️
It’s that exact feeling like there is a connection even before you make a connection and it’s not romantic.
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I’ve definitely felt this way about certain people and now most of them are some of my best friends who I think of as family!
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