As the year rushes to a close, most of us feel an array of feelings and emotions. The festive season brings with it cheer and family closeness. The holiday season brings with it travel and adventure. The New Year brings with it hope. But not all feelings triggered at this time of the year are positive and happy. And while everyone around you might be happy and excited, it is okay to not be okay.
It is okay if you are not feeling your best.
It is okay if you are not feeling excited about the holidays.
It is okay if you feel lost.
It is okay if you feel like you haven’t accomplished much this year.
It is okay if you aren’t excited about 2023.
It is okay if you’re scared that the festivities will trigger your ED.
It is okay if you’re sad that you’re alone during this happy time.
It is okay if you feel like life isn’t where you thought it would be.
It is okay to feel sad sometimes in the middle of all the festivities.
I really don’t feel excited about 2023. It saddens me that I had to say goodbye to so many people in 2022. I lost my grandfather and grandmom to death. I lost my best friend to life. I lost someone that I potentially felt something for. I also feel like I didn’t accomplish much this year. It is also wedding season so seeing all these happy couples all over Instagram is reminding me that another year has passed and I still haven’t found the love of my life. It scares me that I need to start over in 2023. It scares me that I need to do it all over again. So while I love Christmas and this season, I also feel dread, the dread of having wasted another year of my life.
But it is okay to feel all of these things. Movies, shows, and social media portray this time of the year as one jolly fest which it isn’t for a lot of people. While I am happy and excited and planning Christmasy stuff, there still are moments when I feel sad. But it is also helpful to assess what is making you sad and to work towards changing that so that next year at this time, you aren’t feeling the same things.
Things I am working on:
- Taking care of my health by working out and eating right (reducing takeout)
- Waking up early and starting off my day early
- Reducing my screen time (phone+laptop)
- Getting help at work so that I can accomplish more in 2023
- Planning 2023 travel (travelling keeps me sane)
- Going out more and spend less time locked up in my room
- Meet more people – meet friends, go on dates
- Making plans so that I have something to look forward to and be excited about
- Spending way less time on social media
- Taking up new projects, trying things I have always wanted to instead of postponing them
- Make lesser plans but doable ones (a long to-do makes me anxious and makes me procrastinate more)
- Blog more
All of these are already in the works and I am hoping to start 2023 with less dread and more positivity. Cheers, to accomplishing FAR more in 2023. I am going to be happier, healthier and more successful this coming year!
How are you feeling this festive season? Are there any habits you are working to inculcate now instead of starting on January 1st?
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