According to the Oxford dictionary, ‘farewell’ is used to express good wishes on parting. While parting is difficult in most relationships, it is even more difficult when you part ways with your best friend of 15 years.
We met when we were 12 years old. At that point in time, I never saw us becoming friends. But over the next few years, we became inseparable. In 10th STD, as our classmates obsessed over the board exams, we were both obsessed with the movie ‘Rang De Basanti’. I still remember calling you excitedly, 3 hours before our first board exam to tell you that our favourite RDB song was playing on the radio, only to have your mother answer the phone and tell me to focus on the exam instead. Aaaahh. Simpler times. Happier times.
Over the next decade and a half, we were very rarely in the same city and sometimes our physical distance put distance between our hearts. But we always found a way back to each other. Through the fights and the misunderstandings and the growing up, we were constants in each other’s lives. We always knew we’d end up on that porch together. (Ref: How I Met Your Mother and The Porch Test) Old, crinkly and still bickering but together.
So when you moved out of the country, I worried that the distance might be too much for our friendship. I wish that they’d been false worries. As much as we tried, our life journeys just didn’t align anymore. I was going somewhere else and becoming someone else and so were you. The more I tried to keep our paths aligned, the more I felt alienated from you. And as much as I didn’t want to give up on us, I had to let go because I had been hurting for too long.
It has been a year now and I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t miss you. I messaged you that one random day, telling you that I missed you and the radio silence confirmed that 15 years was all the journey that we had together.
I heard that you were in the city a few days back and even though I knew you wouldn’t, I kept hoping that you’d hit me up. I know I could have done it too but I guess I was looking for a sign. Any sign that our paths were meant to get back together. But instead, I got the sign I needed. The sign telling me that it was time to let go for good.
So here it is – that last goodbye – a farewell – wishing you well in everything you do. Wishing you happiness, love, peace and success.
Goodbye, best friend. You won’t be forgotten.
What is the How I Met Your Mother reference? Lily, Marshall and Ted have been best friends for a long time. Lily imagines them retiring and living together in their old age. So every time Ted dates someone she applies ‘the porch test’ on that girl. Would they all be happy if they ended up on a porch together when they are old?
My two best friends and I also started using this test for the guys we dated. Would he fit in with us when we are old and together on the porch?
This letter was inspired by real-life happenings. I don’t want to share more details. I just wrote this to get closure. Sometimes, things have to fall apart to make way for better things.
PS: I’ve been rewatching ‘How I Met Your Mother’ and have fallen in love with the show all over again.
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